Archive Monday: How to Plan Your Wedding Like a Wedding Planner

BAB posted this today, too. A little something something our country’s newest and newbiest crop of The Engaged. It’s going to be okay, y’all. You got everything you need:

 I review bridal shows on my blog. And, I love going to them, it’s a great opportunity to find out what’s out there, what’s new, exciting, anything I can offer my brides to get them the wedding that they want. Plus, there’s just so much pretty. The last one I went to was in Pasadena a few weeks ago, and it was absolutely gorgeous. I was on my second pass around the floor, past the entrance again, when I started to notice something about all the brides that were walking into the room:
None of them were smiling.

 None of them. In fact they were downright scowling – brows furrowed, frowning, just stressed. And I get it. I’ve been a wedding planner for almost ten years now, so sure, I get it. Each one of them was thinking, what if I can’t find what I want? What if I find what I want and it costs too much, or it’s not available when I need it? There are so many choices here, how do I even decide which one is right for me? What if no one else likes what I choose?? In the face of all this Pretty and all these options, there is all this stress and all this fear. And a lot of times it doesn’t go away once you’ve hired me, and have someone to hand the checklist over to. You bring it with you and you carry it along through the whole planning process. Which isn’t fun for you, at all!

The alternative? Thinking about your wedding like I do. I know that you are going to have a fabulous wedding day. I know this. It’s actually my favorite part of my job, showing you how it’s all going to work out. Because at the end of that night, it’s going to be you and the love your life, dancing with everyone else you love and who loves you. And that’s what you’re all there for. I see some skeptical faces out there. Of course it’s easy for me to say that, I do this every day. Yeah, that’s how I know that it’s going to be all right. Because I do this every day.

So, these are the three things I have to tell you, based on what I know from working with hundreds of wonderful couples over the years:

1. First of all, you need to look at your choices differently. You walked into this room thinking, oh my god there are so many different options, how am I going to find the ones that I need, that I want? Instead, say, wow, there are so many options out there, that there is no way that I won’t find what I’m looking for. There’s no way. I just have to keep looking, keep asking until I find IT. What’s in front of you right now is never the only thing that’s available. Now, you may get tired of looking. But that’s not the same thing.  It’s like when you’re shopping for anything else. Just because the first thing you see when you walk into the store is a fuzzy aquamarine sweater, doesn’t mean that you’re obligated to buy it before you walk out. You can choose, and you can also choose to walk away. And never, ever be afraid to ask questions. Ever.

#2 is why you need to give yourself a break. Go to The Broke Ass Bride and find out what it is, so you can take a breath NOW. 

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

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