Ask Liz: Head Table vs. Guest Tables. GO!

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Dear Liz, 

We’re having a destination wedding in Mexico in July, and my fiancee and I are worried about the seating arrangements. We have a large wedding party – 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen – and half of them are bringing significant others with them. It seems wrong to have non-wedding party members sit at the head table with us, but it also seems wrong to separate everyone from their spouses, boyfriends and girlfriends all night. Can we have our wedding party sit at guest tables, instead? What about us, do we sit alone, or can we sit with guests, too?

Signed, 

Musical Chairs

Dear Musical,

Yeah, that’s actually the preferred solution, these days – have a separate guest table(s) for your bridesmaids, groomsmen and their significant others, and then a sweethearts table for you. But,not always. And, I had three couples last year that decided to sit with their guests, too. Some of those people they hadn’t seen in months, so you really can’t blame them, right?
So basically, what’s going to make you feel more comfortable, and what do you feel will make your wedding party more comfortable? If you wanna hang with your husband alone, do it. If you know your Maid of honor would rather sit with her husband and twin girls (or whomever), make it happen. People will do what you ask them to do, whatever feels right for you. All you have to do is decide what that is, and be kind and gracious about it. Either way, and anyway, no one is stuck to their chairs for the whole night.

Are you having seating issues? Or is there another wedding problem I can help you solve right now? Let me know in the comments below, or email me at liz@silvercharmevents.com. And if you’d like to find out more about me and my part of Wedding World, go to www.silvercharmevents.com.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith