Brides Magazine: A Wedding Day Survival Guide for Introverts

Yes, you’re going to have to turn around eventually. But you can do it slowly… Photo: Caroline Tran, Los Angeles

I’m a little bit of an extroverted introvert myself (introverted extrovert? Uh, maybe just leave it at “Virgo”), so I know it can be difficult to be up on stage, all eyes on you. That’s why my job is almost completely “backstage” and why I write a lot.
A while back, I contributed to an article in Brides Magazine about this challenge:

Overwhelmed by large crowds? Hate being the center of attention? Need alone time to reenergize? Then you might be an introvert! And as excited as you are for your wedding, chances are, you’re also dreading the whole all eyes on you all night, small talk, go-go-go aspect of it. Whether you’re planning a big day or a small one though, there are certain things you can do to help minimize anxiety and get rid of some of those pre-wedding jitters.

Face the front.
For brides (and grooms) with stage fright, renowned wedding officiant Reverend Clint Hufft suggests couples not face directly at each other during the ceremony but angle their bodies a bit toward the front. “The goal is to allow the guests to observe and feel connected to the couple but give the couple a ‘safe place’ to focus completely on each other and the moment.”

Keep it small.
Because let’s be real, the less small talk you have to do the better, right? If you can swing it and your fiancé is also on board, a smaller wedding that really only includes your nearest and dearest family and friends is definitely the way to go, advises Lauren Randolph, founder of My Hotel Wedding. “This way, you aren’t bombarded by people you barely know.”

Do a first look.
If you’re introverted, the last thing you want is the added stress and pressure of seeing your soon to be hubby for the first time in front of a big crowd, points out Randolph. “Work with your wedding planner and photographer to orchestrate a more intimate and private first look instead. It really takes away the nerves for the rest of the day, believe it or not.”
Click here to read the rest of the article, and more experts’ advice – including mine – on how to get through the day and enjoy it, too.

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See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com