Why Every Wedding is a Destination Wedding

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I plan and officiate a fair number of destination weddings here in Los Angeles.  L.A. is a prime location, and people from all over the country and the world want to get married a few steps from the beach, or a hop and a skip down the way from Disneyland.

I’m helping a couple in Denmark plan their wedding here in the Fall. We’re still working on finding a location. I’m also planning another event that’s happening next month for a couple that lives here, and they ALSO still need a location. Both need everything else, too. The only difference…is the time difference, but the challenges are the same:

You’ve never done this before: Wherever you are, wherever you’re coming from, this is most likely your first time planning a party for 100+ people. When you’re starting something new, there are a few things that will trip you up before you figure it out, whether it’s having to add tax and service to food and beverage minimums, or understanding how far away Calabasas is from LAX. And can that price actually be right, how is that possible? The first venue, the first photographer, the first caterer you talk to might not (and probably won’t) work, no matter how great they look online. Keep going: But, none of them are the last option you have. You’re in unfamiliar territory, and you have to learn how Wedding World – and rush hour traffic – works. It’s frustrating, but it’s also a process.

Emotions are HIGH: You want to create a wonderful wedding. And that never happens fast enough! There is so much pressure to have a perfect day, and a perfect planning experience. Why is this so hard? Are you doing this wrong? Are you running out of time? What if you can’t find a dress you love?  Are your friends and family judging you because you haven’t sent out invitations, yet?

At some point, maybe at several points, it starts to look and feel like a disaster that’s not going to happen. Deep breath: You’re doing  lot better than you think you are.  When you find yourself feeling like you’re completely screwed, make a list of what you’ve already accomplished, even if it’s something like crossing three potential venues off the list.

I’m not going to tell you the pressure, or your fear and stress aren’t real – you get to have your feelings.  My point is that you can manage manage those feelings until you get to the other side of a signed contract:  Think about how cool it will be to be done with all the searches, and be able to just  enjoy the day with your family, friends, and an open bar. It’s important for you to believe that you will find what you need, not matter how much reality seems to showing you differently.  You’re almost there. You are always almost there. And don’t be afraid to ask for help, no one plans their wedding alone.

Every wedding starts out as a blank canvas. Every couple has a ton of choices on how they want to fill that up. Everyone goes through it, and everyone gets through the other side, happy in the middle of a full dance floor. It’s there waiting for you, trust me.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

Let’s talk about your wedding: Complete the form below to schedule a consultation, or click the link at the bottom of this page to jump on a live chat with me now. Let me know what you need.

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Join Me on Facebook Live on Friday at 12:30pm

Tomorrow, Friday, June 23rd, I’m going to be on Facebook Live, discussing my blog article, “Why Every Wedding Is A Destination Wedding” Join me!

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

What do you need right now to create your dream wedding?  Complete the contact form below, or click the link at the bottom of this page to chat live with me now.

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Wedding Wise Wednesday: Eat Breakfast For Cake

Every Wednesday I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week

waffle wedding cake by Waffle Love

Photo and Yumminess: Waffle Love

Waffle Love – Perfect for a brunch-time wedding, or really, who am I kidding? Any wedding. Or right now, for that matter. AND, Waffle Love has a location in Los Angeles, so you are we welcome.

The Tips

Martha Stewart Weddings – Has a great breakdown about the ins and out of renting tables. I helped my clients do that a few months ago, and these are good tips.  I love her stuff

The Deals

Oriental Trading Company – Free Shipping on ANY order when you use the code CE1755758 at Checkout between now and Thursday at 11:59. Insane amounts of wedding stuff available. GO. Also have an insane amount of 4th of July stuff, too, so if you ever wanted to grab tootsie rolls in American Flag wrappers, now is your chance.

 

The Events

Sunday, June 25th

Premier Bridal
LONG BEACH CONVENTION CENTER
Grand Ballroom – 2nd Level
300 E. Ocean Blvd.
Long Beach, CA 90802
Admission: $5 online, $10 at the door

What else does your wedding need right now? Click the link on this page to chat with me live, or complete the form below – either way I’ll get back to you ASAP.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

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Three Worries About Your Guests That You Can Definitely Get Over Now

Wedding Season is in full swing – let the panic about what could go wrong begin! By this time, friends, family, and the internet have full vetted you on the perils of guest management. Guests must be coddled, or treated like adults, or manipulated, or entertained constantly, and they definitely, DEFINITELY need to be fed and provided with copious amounts of alcohol at all times. And, yes, heh, these are all true. My couples are in different planning stages right now, but the same three concerns have come up in the past two weeks:

1. My guests won’t RSVP by the deadline.
 Is this true? Yes, at least 5% of your guests will not RSVP on time. At least that many.

Why? They got busy, they forgot, they are always like that (you know who I’m talking about), they think they already did, or you should know that they’re coming/not coming.

What can I do? It’s going to happen, so have a plan. Schedule some time a week after the due date to contact the MIAs. If they’re on your parents’ or your fiance’s lists, give them those names – and this is important – a specific date no more than a week in the future to get responses. Preface the request with the phrase, “I need your help.” One of my favorite sayings is, “The presence of fear is an indication that you are relying on your own strength.” Ask for help from those who are in the best position to help you.

2. My guests will bring physical gifts to my wedding.

Will it happen? Oh, yeah.

Why? They didn’t have enough time to ship it to you before the wedding, so they picked it up themselves and brought it over. Or, they wanted to give you something that wasn’t on your registry. Again, the majority of your guests will ship their gifts, or bring a card with the “gift” in it.

What can I do? Couple of things: Designate a table for the gifts and and gift card box. Or ask, a family member or your coordinator to watch out for guests with heavy boxes and put them in a pre-determined safe place.

3. My guests will jump up and block my professional photographer during the ceremony.

Will it happen? They will definitely take pictures, but you can slow their roll a little.

Why? Everyone is excited, and they all want to take their own shots. After all, what is a wedding hashtag for?  They mean well, and honestly, it isn’t that they don’t care that they’re in the way, they don’t realize it.

What can I do? Right before the ceremony begins, have your officiant or your coordinator ask your guests to either turn off their phones (this won’t happen) or to please stay out of the aisle and out of the way of your photographer. It also helps to have the photographer wave at that point, so they can see the actual person who you’re paying thousands of dollars to.

Of course, there are a ton of other questions that come up: Will someone show up in jeans to my wedding? Yes. I’m serious, this happens at EVERY wedding. Will guests be late to my ceremony? Yup. Will guests try and change their meal choice at the reception? Yes, but let the caterer handle that.  Your job is to remember that this is not personal, this is all on your guests. Be as proactive as possible, laugh or roll your eyes when it happens (not in front of them, though), shrug it off, and enjoy the day. It’s still going to be a really cool day.

What else do you want to know about your wedding? Complete the form below to request a consultation, or click the link at the bottom of this page to jump on a live chat with me now.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

p.s. I’ve also been getting a lot of calls this month from couples who still need a wedding venue – like, more than usual! Wedding Wire has a great search page for that, click here to check it out.

 

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Wedding Wise Wednesday: Masterpiece Aisle

Every Wednesday, I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Photography: Al-Omaishi

First of all, I’d like to congratulate and thank Larsa and Jim, whose elopement I officiated last Friday. They met in Australia when she was in medical school, she’s finishing up a fellowship in Louisiana, they decided to get married in Redondo Beach. And this is why I love my job. Larsa set up a camera with a timer on a tripod to take pictures. She’s going to be a surgeon. A good one, it looks like.

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

Original Runners have surpassed themselves – yet again with this gorgeous Picasso inspired aisle runner. Yet another reason for a vow renewal. Mr. Coopersmith and I are celebrating 15 years in February. Hmm…

The Events

Sunday, June 18
11am – 3pm
Premier Bridal Shows
Anaheim Convention Center
800 W. Katella Ave.
Anaheim, CA 92802
Use the code HCTG to get two general admission tickets, or 50% off VIP tickets

What else do you need for your wedding? Click on the chat button on the bottom of the screen, or complete the form below. Let’s talk about it!

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

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Wedding Wise Wednesday: When the Dinosaurs Partied!

Every Wednesday, I bring you the best wedding stories, deals and events in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

This wedding by Sterling Weddings and Events in Arizona is a stunner, not the least of which are the dinosaur place settings at the tables. The Groom is the T-Rex, of course. Do yourself a favor and look at the rest of details at Anne Elizabeth Designs. Thanks to Elle Luu Events for the find.

The Deals:

Philosophy – I was at a conference this weekend, and the organizers gave us very cool swag bags with Philosophy products in them – moisturizer, lotion, facial cleanser. I’ve been using for the past few days, and it’s really good stuff, and I thought, “I wonder if they sell smaller sizes at reasonable prices, that you could give away to your wedding party?” Turns out they do, AND if you sign up for their newsletter, you get %15 off your first order.

The Events

Bride World
O.C. Fair Event Center
935 Arlington Drive
Costa Mesa, California 92626
Tickets are $6 online and $12 at the door.

What else does your wedding need right now? Complete the contact form below, or click on the live chat button at the bottom of this page and let me know what’s up.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

Are you following me on Instagram @lizcharm? You should be.

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Asking Liz: Questions From My Couples This Week

I have been BUSY this week, man. Of course, it was a short week, so once Tuesday hit, everything just kind of hit. And I’m going out of town for a week, starting Friday – follow me on instagram @lizcharm for pictures this weekend. And, I got hired for some new weddings this week, and that involves a lot of questions. Here’s a few I thought may help you out, too:

Do I need a permit to get married on the beach?

It depends on which beach, but don’t assume that you don’t. Google the beach, call the county or city it belongs to. If you need a permit, and don’t have a permit, you will get thrown off, at the very least, fined at the worst (hopefully). Here is the Los Angeles County Beaches site, to give you an idea.

Is it okay to only have an open bar for two hours, even if that means it’s closing an hour before the reception ends?

Yes, but make sure your guests are given a heads up that it’s closing. Make an announcement 30 minutes before. In other words, eliminate the element of surprise.  No one likes to be surprised that they can’t drink for free anymore!

I’m worried about how much my bridesmaid’s dresses are going to be paying for their dresses. What can I do?

If you can’t buy their dresses for them, send them to a website where they can rent them, like Vow to be Chic. Other stores like BHLDN, Moddcloth have reasonably priced dresses, too. You can also give your bridesmaids a color and a dress length, and let them pick their own. Mismatched dresses are really in these day. And no, no one ever wears that dress again. I mean, you didn’t after you were a bridesmaid that one time. I know I didn’t. It’s like expecting you to wear your prom dress again.

I’m buying all the liquor for my wedding. How much can I expect my guests to drink?

It usually comes out to 3-4 drinks per person. The easiest way to figure this out is to come up with a bar menu first, and then go to the bartender you hired and ask how much of everything you’re going to need. Don’t forget about water, and don’t forget about ice.

Do you know where I can get a bouncy house for my wedding?

Yes. If you, dear reader, want some suggestions, ask in the contact box below.

I hired a taco cart to cater my wedding, for 100 guests. How do I make that work?

In this order: 1. Get a second taco cart. 2. And/or Use them as a kitchen for a buffet. 100 people rushing a taco cart isn’t pretty, and even calling tables to the taco cart will take forever. Set up (double-sided) buffet tables, and serve from there. That will require tables, serving platters, serving implements and staff.

What questions do you have about YOUR wedding? Complete the contact form below and let me know, or click on the Live Chat box on the bottom of the page to talk with me right now.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

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Wedding Wise Wednesday: Something Blue

Every Wednesday, I bring you the best wedding stories, deals and events in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week

The Knot:  I love this. Ever since Allison got engaged, she wanted her uncle, who served in two wars, to be her “something blue.” Click through, it’s a very cool story. He was sick for awhile earlier this year, and they were afraid he couldn’t make the wedding a couple of weeks ago. But, of course, Marines always come through.

 

The Deals

The Broke Ass Bride – 24 Fab Wedding Dresses From ModCloth for under $100. These are cu-ute, check them out. The post does contain affiliate links.

Wedding Chicks – DIY your own marquee sign. Some wood, some lights, a little heavy machinery = a whole lot of Pretty. Do you and do this.

 

 

 

 

What else does your wedding need? Complete the contact form below, or click the live chat box at the bottom of this page, and we’ll talk about your wedding.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

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Five Ways to Be The Adult In Any Wedding Conflict

    1. Mallatts aren’t always necessary. Photo: Ether and Smith

There’s so many moving pieces, with so many people, and so many moving places. And then there’s the money. Wedding conflicts, big or small, family or vendor related, are inevitable. Sorry.  But As Marie Forleo says, everything is figureoutable. Here’s some steps for getting there:

1. Breathe. I know, it’s a cliche, but after you get past, “what the hell?” and “Why do I have to deal with this??” or even in the middle, take a deep breathe, and set your mind on a solution.

2. Recognize The Universal Truth – He/She/They are not going to change. Your parents, your best man, are always going to act like your parents always act. Your venue isn’t going to change their rules. Accept it, and accept that you have to work around it. Another truth: Everyone has their side, but they are also on your side, too. They all want this all to work out for you, so keep that in mind.

3. Do not Engage and do NOT escalate. Another cliche? “Discretion is the better part of valor.” Sometimes  it’s better not to say anything, or react (badly) right away to the problem.  This is true for family and friends, too. Affirm what is that you want, and you love (LOVE) it, and move on. Half the time there it’s not something you can solve, they just want to vent and want you to listen. It’s doesn’t require an action item, so don’t act. Remember, #2. But if you do need a resolution, then:

4. Ask for help and a solution. You can’t have live flame in the venue, ask the venue what you can do and what they’ve seen other people do?  Your dad thinks the florist bill – which he’s paying – is ridiculous. Ask for a number he’s comfortable with, and then ask your florist what you can do to cut it down to that or get it close, without sacrificing style. Your bridesmaid can’t afford the dress you picked out, or the bridal shower/bachelorette party. “What do you feel comfortable doing?” is always your question. If they have to get back to with an answer, give them a deadline to get back to you and follow up. This is your friend, so give her as much cover and back up as you can. Hint: Mismatched dresses are in.

5. Say “Thank You”, A LOT.  People like being appreciated and acknowledged. And, really, you do appreciate them, and their presence, and their help, and that they are here for you on your special day, and the time they’re giving you and the effort they’re expending. Say “Thank You” every time you can. It’ll go a long way.

What else does your wedding need right now? Let’s talk about it: Complete the form below to schedule a complimentary consultation, or click on the chat box at the bottom of this page to talk to me live now.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

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Wedding Wise Wednesday: Where the Boys Are

Every Wednesday I bring you the best wedding stories, deals and events in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

First of all, Congratulations to Ashley and Jonathan! I’m so excited to perform their wedding ceremony on Saturday, through Great Officiants. Follow me on Instagram @lizcharm for pictures. And, also, a Thank You to Erica and Andrew, how hired me to to coordinate their wedding day in November at Westlake Village Inn. Welcome to the Silver Charm Events family!

 

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week

Buzzfeed: Oh, my God, you guys, this is fantastic: Rebecca, a computer engineering student in Brazil, didn’t have bridesmaids, but she was sad that she would miss out on wedding prep pictures. So she thought, “When the bride doesn’t have any girlfriends, it’s time to call her bros. This is what happens to a girl in computer engineering.”  She recruited her five best male friends, put them in short pink robes, and let the magic happen. Do yourself a favor and click through to Buzzfeed for the pictures – eventually this pull her fiance into it AND there are some gorgeous shots from their wedding too. It’s stuff like this that makes me glad to be alive, you know?

The Deals

Kate Spade

Kate Spade –  Save an extra 25% off their sale styles when you use the code REFRESH. I just grabbed a passport holder for $25 today, and they have lovely earrings, necklaces and bracelets that would make great wedding accessories and wedding party gifts. And purses, of course, if you’re into that kind of thing. You’re welcome!

Cool for You

Martha Stewart Weddings: 7 Genius Flower Hacks. Inspiration, tips and knowledges for making the most of your floral celebration experience. How’s that for a sentence?

What else do you need for your wedding right now? Let’s talk about your wedding: Complete the form below, or click onto the chat box on this page to get started.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith

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